reblog if you:
- flinch away when someone touches you.
- panic when you accidentally break an object.
- get scared when someone walks behind you.
- feel your heart rate increase at every sudden noise.
- are easily panicked by slightly-louder-than-normal sounds.
- stare apprehensively at your bedroom doorway for hours at night.
- have trouble making eye contact with people.
- always feel either too mature or too immature for your age.
- simultaneously crave and be terrified of physical contact.
because i do all of these
Rose Quartz is a Whore Who FUCKED a Human
this is good
I’d just like to add, see how they behave when they’re angry/frustrated/exhausted, and if you see something that concerns you, wait until they’re calm, and then talk to them about it.
My husband used to yell when he got frustrated, but after I explained to him that I found it upsetting, he stopped yelling and started consciously working on asking for help before he got to that level of frustration.
When I’m upset over something, or just in a bad mood, I tend to withdraw. My husband explained to me that it makes him feel like I’m mad at him, so now when I need some space, I’ll tell him what I’m upset about, or that I’m in a bad mood for no particular reason, and I need to be alone for a little while.
See your friends and partners at their worst, but don’t assume that their worst is immutable. If someone loves and cares about you, they’ll try to accommodate you to the best of their ability.
^^^^
This is the best advice I’ve ever seen on this site, and it is so important. Communication is everything, and is 80% of the reason my husband and I have such a healthy, strong, and supportive relationship.You can’t change someone but loved ones can change their behavior and that is one of the most beautiful things about love
Something I’ve noticed over the years: symptoms of trauma will be mocked and trivialized as angst, especially if you’re a woman, and only a trained eye will pick up on this
Further observation: if you let on even in the slightest that the reason for your behavior stems from trauma people will immediately freak out because they can’t handle what they can’t understand, and they don’t want to have to take you seriously because it’s much easier to dismiss you as an angsty girl
And one of the worst side effects of this is cringing relentlessly at your own suffering because you’ve learned and internalized that people will only regard it as a joke, anyways
Like “triggered” is a cheap joke now. I’m legitimately embarrassed whenever I’m actually triggered by something and it’s not fair I don’t even feel like I can use language literally intended to describe experiences with trauma
me: hey how long is this thing going to last
someone: haha you just want to know when you’re off the hook
me: hah
me: (actually i just need to allocate the right expectations and backlog of energy and make sure the rest of my day falls in good accordance with it so that i don’t feel time-crunched and propel myself into a hysteria because if i don’t know how long this thing lasts or when it ends i can’t possibly know when literally anything else starts and my entire life becomes an unraveled realm of anarchy with no rhyme or reason and how is that not terrifying to you)
me: hey how long will this take
someone: oh like twenty minutes
me: ok
*an hour later*
me: *clinging to every learned social skill i can think of with the desperate hope my distress and exhaustion doesn’t show*
someone: hey we’re almost done don’t be so crabby
me: *smiling* *internally screaming at this SENSELESS CHAOS*
someone: hey do you want to do [involving time-consuming thing]
me: hey that sounds fun! when were you thinking?
someone: oh we’re doing it right now
me: oh. like. now-now? like right now. like you want me to stop what i’m doing and get up and do this thing with you, suddenly, with thirty seconds of warning. now. like this second. immediately. now?
Ummmm I feel like this is a bit risky but! Can you guys please introduce me to your friends or mutuals maybe? I want more friends!
soft theme by kiznaiver
well this is actually like my tenth theme but i want to start new so….
features under the cut
Tfw you can’t tell if this is a New Headmate or if you just. Really fucking love this boy.
Catch me upsetting myself by reading through the ask blog that’s similar to my Canon :’)
